Fear of rejection. That’s it.
Fear of rejection for a certain idea or project, makes us feel like we shouldn’t be yourself, and when we’re not ourself – we’re less confident to do things. We start second guessing ourselves, and start looking for answers in books, tv shows, the internet, and video games. We look for distractions. We block the potential of the human mind to exceed its own limitations. We stop pursuing the things we love, and we delay them to a time in the future.
Now how does one become himself, or become more confident to not procrastinate?
That question makes very little sense, but the ramifications of procrastination are huge.See, something doesn’t have to FEEL right, to do it. If you wait until you feel like going to the gym, you never will. You’ll simply push it away and distract yourself. And being distracted actually makes you less happier than doing something with your full love and attention.
How often have you really enjoyed a good movie, when it gripped you completely head to toe in its story. Now try going to a crappy movie, and you’ll be reaching for your phone every 10 minutes.
We’re all wired that way. To find happiness. To find solutions to problems that we see, but we choose to stop after a while – when the returns become smaller than the energy spent. So we think that we need to stop pursuing our curiosity after a certain point, because it won’t benefit us in return. Children are curious until the ages of 3 and 4, until they’re told to STOP IT.
People spend hours and hours watching art, theatre, play, and tv shows, all the while getting nothing in return. Simply a conversation starter for their next lunch party, when they would say,
“Did you catch that show last night? The main lead died by the hands of the villain.”
I find that to be no different from,”Did you know that a plant grows faster to Mozart than to heavy metal? I find that fascinating.”
See a conversation with dummies makes you feel like less of a dummy. This constant dumbing down of our conversations, stems due to our own ignorance of our potential. We stop talking about the moons and the stars and focus instead on the triviality of stories, who’s themes have been recurring since millennia past.
So you push, and delay and fight and have constant unrest with yourself. Like a river that flows towards boulders instead of around them. Or a marigold that blooms only during the day, for the night is for rest because those are the laws of nature that are set in stone.
10-6 is for work, and 6-10 is for play – as many people still think these days. “Oh, once I reach home I can really relax and do what I really want to do.” And once they reach home, they try to quiet down their minds by having the TV on as background noise. Sometimes the TV does have brilliant shows that are truly gripping and artistic in their raw essence. These are the shows that truly inspire.
And oh boy, you know what comes next right? The running. The running away from your problems, your family, your friends, and in the end your own life. You can’t be yourself infront of people, and hence you choose to run away and become a recluse until you can figure out why you’re being so lazy and withdrawn. You lose all your energy and you turn to addiction or worse – self doubt. Tick tock tick tock – it goes in circles. You come out of it and you go back in. And so the world goes round.
Find that one thing that you love doing in your spare time. Do it more, balancing work and play. Until work becomes play and the two intertwine. Stretch. Both your body and your mind – because you really really want to. Until a point comes where your thoughts exceed what you are capable of. Sometimes, the mind thinks about things that might be out of our bubbles. Explore it. Go beyond it, and you’ll realize what an immense source of pleasure this life really is.
So, do you have the guts to have fun in this life?
– Now that’s a blind question. I thought fun is about play and doing whatever you enjoy doing.
You got it!