Understanding happiness and sadness


Happiness is a state of mind. A polarity, if you will.

Certain times you are faced with a duality – from which you can pick one of two things or pick neither.

Happiness works in the same manner. Why is it that we stay away from sad people and go closer to happy ones? It’s this instinctual need to be happy for others – that makes us think about our own objectives for being happy. Am I happy because I want to be accepted by others, or because I truly am happy.

The kind of pleasure we feel when we’re happy – we also feel a certain form of pleasure in being sad as well. Being sad is comfortable. Sadness is being reserved, being in your shell for a long long time. It’s a tricky slope to be in, when people want to get lost in sadness. It gives them purpose. True happiness is a complete lack of purpose, meaning, expectation, and all the things that make our minds tick-tock. Freeing the mind – some say – give us happiness.

But do we really want to be happy? – What’s the point of being happy? I’d rather become rich, famous, loved and revered. In this case, your passion and your energy depends on your work, your accomplishments and your personal connections. You start to define yourself as someone who’s hardworking, and an overall winner in the rat race. Other people like that. Other people gravitate towards it. But what happens when you lose your legs, and then your money, and then your friends? What is left inside you? What happens when layer by layers are removed from your physical self, and then eventually your own ego? How would you define yourself in that case?

There is so much pleasure in sadness. Because sadness is timeless. We feel sad when our minds are not stimulated and we think about the long long life ahead of us. Statistically speaking, of course, we are going to live a long life, and our minds don’t know what to do with ourselves for that long of a period.

Happiness is therefore, ignoring the long and focusing on the short. I.e., thinking about the present moment and how you’re going to be happy in that moment. This focus on happiness and being light gives you multiple benefits – all of which you completely ignore when you’re sad.

For the possibility of a question only arises when there are more than one answers. That’s why we don’t question breathing, as the answer is straight-forward. We die if we don’t breathe. No question there.

But for questions like – “Where are we from?”, “Why are we here?”, “What is the meaning of life”, and “What will I have for breakfast?”. If there was only one choice for breakfast – you would n’t have that question in your mind. Hence, the rules of this universe force you to have multiple options for breakfast and hence you spend a significant period of time contemplating what you’ll eat. The same goes for questioning the meaning of life.

See, there are two sides to the reason why you ask this question of the meaning of life. One is that there are multiple answers to this question – and you don’t have enough evidence or data to answer any of them. Second, the rules of the universe have put you in this position to question the idea of meaning. Very few young children spend this much time thinking about it. I wonder if cats think about this as well.

It’s funny how 100,000 years of evolution have made us think about this subject to the degree of how much we do – only in the last few centuries or so. Why this time? Why is it that during this period is there a massive desire to figure out the truth behind the curtain, the master pulling the puppet, and the owner working the slaves.

Sadness was created by the creator, but we can still chose to be happy. Sadness is a default state of mind for a lot of people – especially more so for the depressed.



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